Head Dude or Dudette

How does one go able picking who they want in control of their lives. I mean things are a bit more strict in the paranormal communities then in real life. Leaders are rarely picked by democratic process. It's a matter of strongest meanest mother F'er around usually. Now I know that sometimes it's a matter of heredity but usually not for long. So how does one go about helping the biggest dude you like get to power. Sometimes you can help take down the dude you don't like. Sometimes you can lend your powers to the one you do like. But there are just so many different things you can't count on. I like the hiding in the background and see who hits the top way. After all you can always do one of those other things later. :)